I didn't know about Facebook until about my second or third year of college. A friend recommended it to me as a good way for me to post my photos of recent concerts we had been to. I had been a bit reluctant, but what was one more 'social networking' site? I already had a Windows Space, MySpace, Bebo, Hyves and several others whose passwords I've long forgotten. So I signed up and became immersed in the world of Facebookery.
Ignoring the media's warning of the huge risks to sharing personal information (I like to live dangerously) I boldly displayed my personal information. (Who's going to want to pretend to be me, anyway?) Full name, age (even the year!), school and hometown were within reach of anyone looking. Bring it, identity thieves.
Several years, 392 friends (aren't I popular?), a couple videos, 357 photos tagged of me (a lot of them are from other people, I'm not THAT vain) and 82 albums later, I have a hard time thinking back to how life was in the BAF (Before the Age of Facebook). Facebook has always been keeping up-to-date, changing every few months to remain current in the interweb world. I'd say that's the main reason it hasn't gone the way of MySpace and its predecessors.
There are many who refuse to 'hop on the Facebook bandwagon'. The most common reason I've heard is that it's because it's so 'impersonal'. I disagree. While a 'poke' doesn't compare to a hug or a wall post to a conversation, Facebook is as impersonal as you make it. I have a theory that if the nay-sayers were born in Alexander Bell's time, they'd be rejecting the phone as "too impersonal". Or going back farther, they'd have rejected letters, Morse code and smoke signals. Each has had its era, each has been of use to society during its time. Just because there is almost always a more personal way to interact with someone, doesn't make it the best. For instance, if I heard about a friend's recent engagement, a phone call is more appropriate than me giving my buddy a big ol' smack on the lips. Not only would I risk a fist to the face, I'd be sure raise some questions in his fiancée's head. Not to mention my own girlfriend's. Overall, it's not always a good idea to be more personal.
Anti-FBers are quick to follow-up with the rhetorical question of: "Why not just pick up the phone?" I can think of a couple reasons. One, the phone is about half-way up on the hierarchy of personal interaction (below handwritten letters and well above the fist pump). And as I demonstrated above, jumping levels in the hierarchy is not a good idea. If someone made a comment that me laugh, I'm not going to call them, laugh, then hang up. If it's an old classmate's birthday, I'll congratulate them on Facebook. Chances are I don't even have their number, nor do I feel like risking an awkward "so, who is this??" conversation. (Don't let my 392 friends fool you, I wasn't all that popular in High School). Sometimes being LESS personal is better. A written "Happy Birthday" will be received well. Making a long-distance phone call to someone I haven't seen since grad to say the same two words will be received with various degrees of curiosity, confusion, creepiness and court meetings about restraining orders. The second reason I give Facebook the thumbs up instead of the phone is distance. I haven't lived in the same area code as the vast majority of my friends for more than half of each of the last two years. Not even the same continent. Phone calls are all but out of the discussion. Same with mail. It takes months for me to receive any from home. Not a good option. Facebook is easy, quick and free (always a pro for those of use from Dutch heritage).
Facebook has more pros for me than just being easier and cheaper than other forms of communication. I regularly meet a lot of other people for only short periods of time. People come in and out of the mission/volunteer world for as little as a week. I get to know them, then they're gone. Facebook lets me keep in touch with them for years after. But not only the people I meet briefly, those I'm closely connected to are readily available on Facebook. A lot of my friends, church members and family are there, (even my Grandpa!) It's been an amazing way to keep in touch with many of the people I know and have come to know. Long live Facebook!
ps, to anyone not on Facebook who has read this and would like to comment, I fully expect a phone call.
Nice job Trevor! loved your comments about facebook--so true!
ReplyDeletehmmm i agree with the facebook thing... except.. with me, i like facebook, but it doesnt hold much for me... i do check it every day incase of a message.. its like e-mail.
ReplyDeleteso i would have to say im not on the wagon, my leg is caught on the wagon, and its dragging me along..
haha that's funny, I JUST finished listening to Bruxy's sermon on Technology and Narcissism (how people used to use the Internet to get information, now we use it to "self-promote the trivial" and forget to ask about what's a good or healthy way to use things like Facebook...)
ReplyDeletefunny funny. glad you're using the Internet to share Nigeria with us.
PS also glad you're using camera technology and taking amaaaaazing pictures.
ReplyDeleteThanks Justine! I'm glad you use camera technology too! That's very true, the "self-promote the trivial" thing, haha. Facebook totally can be used that way, or in a good and healthy way. Maybe someday I'll be using it in the latter...
ReplyDeleteJon, thanks for the vivid description... Facebook has different levels for everyone, me thinks. You're in the maimed category.
And thanks... Dad?
i posted a comment on here a while ago, and apparently it was sucked into cyber space. i forget what i wrote waaay back then, haha! but im sure it was along the lines of "sweet pics!" and "i cant wait to see more!" or something like that. :D also, im super excited to see you next week!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteDude, you take great pictures. Kudos.
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